What NOT to Say to a Woman Who’s Just Miscarried

What NOT to Say to a Woman Who’s Just Miscarried

Look, there’s a lot of pressure to “say the right thing.” There’s something terrifying about grief– it feels messy, overwhelming. Like if it goes on too long, regular life will shrink in the distance to a tiny, unreachable speck on the horizon. When the terrible thing...

Post Partum Depression

What’s the difference between The Baby Blues and Postpartum Depression? Many women experience some kind of “Baby Blues” after giving birth, and this is not so unusual! Right after giving birth, our bodies are acclimating to different hormone levels, lack of sleep, and...

Pregnancy After Loss– Rainbow Babies

Becoming pregnant after a loss can be an intense experience. One woman may welcome the pregnancy with exuberance and confidence in her body’s ability to carry to term while another is filled with ambivalence …or even breath-snatching anxiety. This is further...

5 Signs Your Pregnancy Loss Was Traumatic

Not all women experience the loss of a pregnancy as traumatic or even as something to be grieved, per se. I didn’t realize that after my miscarriage, I was suffering from some of the classic symptoms of trauma. While it’s normal and healthy to grieve the loss of a...

Miscarriage Grief Strategies #1: Baby Book

Grief Strategies Grieving can feel like a chaotic mess. One minute I’m “fine”, or at least maybe treading water. The next, I am overwhelmed and sobbing. I plunge into deep black holes. Time becomes elastic. I scrap my way into coherence. I have conversations, I...